Profalactics in schools

[AllArmyoutdoorsSD]

I know this can be a touchy subject, But I wanted to know how other parents feel about schools teaching "Safe Sex" and offering protection to our kids. I am a conservative, but not to the point that I don't think that kids are trying to act like adults, so I am a little torn on the subject. Yes I want my child to practice abstenance, but on the other hand if she doesn't I want her to know how to protect her self as well. What are your thoughts?

I would love for my boys to practice abstinence but I'm no fool.

I want them to use protection but I am not gonna go out and buy them boxes of condoms and endorse the use of them. Ya know? As far as the school teaching kids about sex, well, I am the one who should be teaching my children about that subject. However, there are a LOT of kids out there that will never learn about it unless their friends or the school teaches them.


The real question is: At what age level do the schools think that this is appropriate??

[AllArmyoutdoorsSD]

I know that it is my job to teach my child about these things, however it seems like kids have so many influencers out there it seem that what I say may have a lower effect rate than when I was growing up. In the job I am doing now I notice that teachers and guidance councelors are influencing students more and more.

At what age? I work with High Schoolers all day every day, and to be honest they are far more advanced physically now than when I was 16, 17 etc..
Maybe 8th graders shoul be introduced to Preventative medicine. I just wish more parents would step up. I have got a while before my daughter is going to be affected by this, but I can't help but worry.

[johnf]

Offering condoms in school is just like the mother who puts her 14 year old daughter on the pill. It is giving them permission to have sex.

There are only three purly safe forms of sex.

1. abstonence

2. between two people who have never had it befor and will never have another partner.

3. The Pee Wee Herman method.

Kids need to be educated on the percentages of pregnancies and STD's transmitted while using "safe sex" percautions. Not given the opportunities to find out the hard way.

I love my son, but he and I are both statistics and were'nt planned.

[buckee]

I agree with John.
It's the Parents job to teach their kids abstinance or bless their sexual activities at a young age, Not our schools.
Schools should be taking the high road and teaching abstinance. Putting those machines in the washrooms in schools is like giving kids the green light.

[AllArmyoutdoorsSD]

I understand where you two are coming from, and agree. I don't necesarily believe it to be a good idea to give hand outs in school. But concidering the amount of time kids spend at school, verses time with parents, where are they getting their education? Is abstinance realistic? I don't have an opinion as of yet I am just voicing thoughts. I live in a relatively small town, but teen pregnancy is high, drug use is high, alcohol use is extremely high. Here sex ed is not realy accepted by society, and there are bills in congress right now going both ways. I just don't want to be the parent who believes in fairy tales and ends up with a pregnant daughter at age 13, because I was preaching abstinance, but on the same hand I don't want to condone this behavior either. Is there a middle road?

[muggs]

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I agree with John.
It's the Parents job to teach their kids abstinance or bless their sexual activities at a young age, Not our schools.
Schools should be taking the high road and teaching abstinance. Putting those machines in the washrooms in schools is like giving kids the green light.

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Buckee, kids are gonna do it anyway. At least they should be taught to do it safely.

[buckee]

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Is abstinence realistic?

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I think it's very realistic. The only thing that makes it unrealistic, is when we as parents bow to the pressures of the world around us, and give up or moral responsibilities in favour of the old adage "Well, they're going to do it anyway, so what's the use" When we give up on our kids in that way at home, and then at school, we have opened up a very wide door, that no-one can close.

[AllArmyoutdoorsSD]

Without sounding argumentative, Are you saying to teach abstinence period? I am a strong parent, and I see my child testing me constantly. The times she decides to test me when I am not there is what worries me. Kids have a varacious hunger for knowledge, good and bad. By teaching only abstinence, I wonder if i am not leaving a door open for challenge by peers, and boys.

[Mathews XT Man]

muggs may I remind you...abstenance is the ONLY safe way!! codomes do NOT fully protect you from ALL of the diseases out there!

[johnf]

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Buckee, kids are gonna do it anyway. At least they should be taught to do it safely.

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I teach in one of the lowest achieving schools in the state, We have fights on a daily basis, we've had as many as 6 in one day 3 of which the police had to be called. After 3 years here I have one of the biggest and best small school band in the area. I had more kids make honor bands this year than 4 3A, 4A and 5A schools. This year so far I've had zero discipline problems with my band kids.

My point is this. Kids will perform at whatever level you expect them to. I expet the best my kids are capable of, that's what they give me.

If you teach your kids that they'll "Do it anyway" they won't disappoint you.

[buckee]

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If you teach your kids that they'll "Do it anyway" they won't disappoint you.

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I agree
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Buckee, kids are gonna do it anyway. At least they should be taught to do it safely.

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That's the lazy parents way out.
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Are you saying to teach abstinence period?

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Yes, I am. Abstinence before marriage is what everyone should be teaching their kids.
Did I abstain before marriage ... No, but I sure left a lot of garbage behind me because of it. Just because I didn't abstain before marriage, doesn't make promiscuity right.
Did may daughter follow my advice ?..........No, but her decisions in life are not on my head, and she will have something solid to fall back on when she see's how right the teaching is, when she has her own kids someday, and wants nothing but the very best for them, including God's blessing in all that they do.
The thing is, if your not teaching them abstinance, then what are you teaching them.

My opinion and belief

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Buckee, kids are gonna do it anyway. At least they should be taught to do it safely.


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That's the lazy parents way out

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No thats just being realistic.I dont care how good of parent you are, at some point your kids gonna test you.You preach abstinence all the time its just gonna make em wonder what the fuss is about and wanna find out for themselves.Maybe some of you dont remember being over run with hormones at that age but it doesnt neccasarily make for good decision making.Id rather have the condom option there for my kids then have them getting pregnant or impregnating someone elses and possibly ruining the rest of thier lives.

[johnf]

Set the bar low and you'll always reach your goal.

Great philosophy.

[unioncountyslayer]

Not to sound like a goody-goody but growing up my parents stressed the importance of abstinence. They didn't shove it down my throat, but I knew in my heart right from wrong and it was up to me to make the right decision. I decided to wait until I married, and was lucky enough to meet a girl that had made the same decision. And as a result our wedding night was the most special day in our lives. Everyone has free will and self-control. I'm not saying it was easy, but the reward was well worth the wait. My honest $.02